A bit late, but I just had a brain wave concerning the missing thread issue.
It used to happen to me quite frequently a couple of years back. I finally figured out that it generally occurred after I (the originator of the thread) had edited an early comment in the thread.
Once I had edited the earlier comment, the whole thread would resume its position in the timeline according to the date when the edited comment was first written. That way it would vanish from the current list, even when I had added another quite recent comment.
“Once I had edited the earlier comment, the whole thread would resume its position in the timeline according to the date when the edited comment was first written.”
This is true. Now this thread is at the top on the list.
But, if someone edit early comments, this thread will disappear from the top.