I have to say that I’m probably lucky on approaching this subject. For some reason, I don’t care. In fact, if I say something stupid, like every language learner sooner or later does, I laugh in the same way the natives do. They usually laugh, or try to hold that, and look at you smiling. In those circumstances I usually ask what’s wrong myself and I laugh with them as well. And I really laugh about wrong pronunciation, or completely wrong words, and so on.
This is probably why I learn very fast by interaction with people. It’s my faster and preferred way to learn. And I don’t need all those hours of listening or studying that @asad100101 is saying. However, I never faced languages completely different from mine, and that’s another story. In this case he is probably right, it’s a lot of hard work.
One thing though, I have started to realise that by interacting with natives, we do listening as well. Because we listen to them speaking. In this case, I have done a lot of listening as well by living directly in my target countries, straight away, almost without having done anything prior. (a part for German!)
I understand this point too. It is quite common for many people as well. However, you need to understand that’s the way it is if you want to learn faster.
Instead of focusing on the topic that you are talking about, focus on the language. Don’t focus on difficult subjects, or things that you really care about and you want to explain your point of view. Just choose easier topics at the beginning, light conversations, and so on.
When we get caught with our emotions in a conversation, we lose sight of what we are doing. If you stay focus on the language, and easier conversations, it becomes a bit easier.
If you do tandem, you can do only 30’ each. Or even 20’ for you and 40’ for your partner.
For me, the better phrases to learn initially are something like:
can you repeat that?
repeat again please
say again please
what have you said?
what was the last word?
a little bit slower
how do you say that thing? (pointing with your finger)
I didn’t get that
what?
All and other little phrases like that can really help you to make the conversation a bit more fluent.
I often say that by smiling or laughing
When you talk, use the same words over and over, and integrate new ones on those that you already know.
The little word “thing”, for example, can be used everywhere by just pointing your finger at objects. Then, step by step, you build vocabulary.
Face-to-face conversations are a lot easier than telephone conversations.